Words

Why Love Is Not Color Blind

Hello everyone, 

I am here as an African-American woman, who is deeply hurt by the riffs and division in our nations and the lack of respect and justice given to minorities in America. 

But even worse as a Christian, I have experienced this among the church and have seen how wounded the body of Christ has become due to racism. 

I am not here to bash and criticize all the people who have hurt me or people of color. That would be giving into the same hatred African-Americans receive that I abhor. I am here though to help others understand why it is important to understand and educate ourselves on the importance of race and the cultures that have risen because of it. 

When I hear the phrase “love is color blind”, I am utterly saddened. I also know that these words are not always stated, but people of color are treated as if they are true. Witnessing this type of escapism for race is truly hurtful. It can make me feel like one doesn’t want to understand me but just look over racism and start anew. And honestly not everyone really knows how it makes people of color feel. But this stance is exactly the kind of ignorance the “color blind” stand creates. I think many people wish we could change history and remove racism from our world but we cannot. And when you try to act like you can do that now, you are not removing racism but parts of people and their lives. 

As a Christian, I know that my identity is not in my race and Jesus hates racism. 1st Corinthians 12:13 says, “For we were all baptized by one Spirit so as to form one body-whether Jews or Gentiles, slave or free-and we were all given the one Spirit to drink.”1 That is something so beautiful about the gospel: The equality and freedom found is Jesus. BUT this does not mean to act like we can erase race is the way to go. I mean Jesus came to the world as a Jew during Roman rule, and Jesus did not try to erase his race or deny it. He did challenge us to love our neighbor though. And you love by understanding who people are including their race.

I wish I was seen just as Kenedy, but our world is a testament to the fact that I am seen as black Kenedy. Therefore, how I view the world as a human is affected by my race and culture. When you don’t want to understand why people see me as black Kenedy, you don’t want to understand how I see the world. I see it as trying to act like your kid doesn’t need glasses when he bumps into walls, squints to see things, and complains that everything is blurry. You will never understand his plight the more you ignore it. 

By no means am I saying that our race is our identity. The fact that a difference in melanin has made such division and hatred arise is appalling. Like in the example above, the kid’s identity is not rooted in his lack of 20/20 vision. Nor is any person of color to be defined by their skin. I am saying that my life cannot be divorced from the effects of my skin color. So when someone says love is color blind. It translates that they want to ignore parts of my life. 

What makes racism so hurtful is that people of color have no control over how dark their skin is. It is not a choice I made or a belief I have or something I have done that makes people dislike me. It is just a natural part of my anatomy. Living based on love is color blind means you do not want see that hurt, the years and years of hurt. Would you comfort someone in an abusive relationship by telling them just to ignore their pain?

I don’t want to force all white people to fall on their knees and apologize. But I am asking you if you see their tension in a room due to race, break it. If you know you have never tried to understand someone’s race, learn and ask uncomfortable questions. When you see the lack of diversity and equality around you, don’t be silent. And lastly don’t try to “love” people of color without acknowledging and understanding the effects of the color in society. So many times I have been hurt due to race not because someone denies me my rights or verbally or physically abuses me. It many times is their silence, lack of understanding, and not taking any step across the room (or just the bare minimum to be cordial). It makes me feel like I am this weird thing people don’t know or stay away from and not a child made in the image of God. 

Psalm 34:18 says, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”2 God’s love covers a multitude of sins but that doesn’t erase their effects. But God’s love is with those in pain and trials. Therefore, we should love those in pain and suffering due to the effects of race. Let’s stop the silence. Let’s stop the ignorance. Let’s stop acting oblivious. Let’s stop living in exclusivity. Let’s stop trying to not see color but see how we can be united with differences. Let’s truly show how crazy and radical God’s love can be by trying to understand our differences due to color. 

I will end with an excerpt from an essay I wrote earlier this year:

“People of color not only can enrich communities with their unique culture; many of them are not afraid to challenge and discuss race because of their experiences… I visibly show that unity doesn’t have to mean we are exactly the same. The most important bond as Christians is Christ’s sacrifice that saved us all. This encourages me to reflect on His example of radical love. I have witnessed the impact that diversity brings and want to continue to learn with others and engage in their cultures. Christians lifting the stigma around race will make others feel the love of Christ.”

~ Kenedy M. 

P.S. 

Great message on race reconciliation by Trip Lee, a Christian rapper.

And a beautiful song on race and Martin Luther King Jr. by Wilder Adkins

  1. Holy Bible, New International Version. Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2011.
  2. Holy Bible, New International Version. Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2011.

10 thoughts on “Why Love Is Not Color Blind

  1. I appreciate the way you’ve articulated this idea. Seeing people for who they are, acknowledging and appreciating their differences, and loving them wholly and unconditionally is what’s needed in our world.

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Kenedy, my precious daughter and sister in Christ, how excited I am over your words today on race and your true identity. It gives my heart such JOY knowing you are walking in God’s truth(3 John 4)! Yes, you are a black young woman.. but most importantly you are a Christian young lady who happens to be an African-American. I’m so proud of your understanding and wisdom of the world, through God’s point of view. Happy you have an eternal perspective!! Keep growing closer to Christ, and loving other’s unconditionally through Him. I’m one of your #1 fans!!

    Liked by 2 people

  3. Well done Kenedy! I recall the powerful words of Martin Luther King Jr in his I have a dream speech: “I dream that one day my four little children will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.”
    Your words are pushing the dream forward!

    Liked by 1 person

  4. Precious Kenedy,
    Uncle Duane and I can’t thank God enough for His kindness to us in placing you and your family in our lives. Knowing you, loving you, and sharing in your lives is such a gift to us which we do not take for granted. We love the beautiful and gracious way you challenge us to think, understand, grow and change – we have so much to learn! Mostly we are thankful for Jesus’ presence in our lives together which gives us such hope and joy. Love you so much!!

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s